Offering Support, Hope and Healing

If you have experienced betrayal in your relationship due to your partners’ unwanted sexual behaviours, and you need help taking the next steps in your life, let me help you navigate this overwhelming time. I can provide you with 1:1 individual coaching and support to offer you the tools and framework to not only overcome the pain but thrive in your life.

It's okay to ask for help. By making the commitment to your own healing and recovery, you can experience freedom and move towards a healthier identity as I walk alongside you through every step of this process. I will meet you wherever you are in your healing journey. You are not alone.

I believe there is hope, healing and restoration in the life of every woman beyond betrayal. Make this investment for yourself and your future. You deserve it.

Why we Exist

Our mission

Psalm 34:18 “ The Lord is close to the brokenhearted, he rescues those whose spirits are crushed” Gateway of Hope Coaching was established in 2021 with the mission of providing professional, specialized coaching to help you gain the courage to face fears, challenge yourself and understand the trauma caused by sexual betrayal.Porn Addiction and Sexual Betrayal affects your marriage and family life; I understand. I work exclusively with women to help them find hope and recovery from their trauma.

Your coach

Hi, I’m Sandy.

When I’m not coaching, you can find me submerged in nature, at the beach and always with a cup of coffee in hand.

I enjoy walking and biking and spending time with my children and our dog Bosco, who was a source of comfort during a very difficult time.

I met my husband in 2004 when I gave my heart to Jesus at a church one of my coworkers brought me to. It was the best day of my life! As my husband and I began dating, I felt I had found my best friend. We had great chemistry and enjoyed dreaming of what our life would look like years down the road. We were engaged within 6 months and married 6 months after that. I married the man of my dreams and truly believed God gave me a gift.

A year into our marriage I had a shocking discovery…and it was when my heart was shattered and broken into pieces. This was the beginning of multiple discoveries with each one hurting me more and more. With each discovery, I could feel my self worth and inner strength dissipating. My anxiety was at an all time high and I thought I was going crazy. I was trying to find safety in a relationship that was not safe nor trustworthy. I felt so alone and misunderstood. During this time, there was no one talking about sex addiction or betrayal trauma. No one knew how to help us or understood the impact my husbands addiction had on me and our family. I didn’t know what I was experiencing was betrayal trauma. It took us years to finally find the right help and support which we were very thankful for!

We have been in active recovery since 2017 working on healing and the restoration of our marriage. My husband and I both lead support groups for men struggling with unwanted sexual behaviours and for women affected by sexual betrayal. I am an IPEC Certified Professional Life Coach as well as a betrayal trauma and recovery partner coach ( APSATS trained )

It is an honor to journey with each of my clients and offer hope and healing.

My hope was found in the promises of God. In particular this promise found in Hosea 2:15

“ I will return her vineyards to her and transform the Valley of Trouble into a gateway of hope. She will give herself to me there, as she did long ago when she was young, when I freed her from her captivity in Egypt.”

You see, when God gave me this promise everything changed for me. I now began to see the purpose in the pain. I heard God say that He would transform all my troubles into a gateway of hope. I knew that God was going to bring ashes into beauty… and that He wasn’t done with our story!

It was this hope that gave me strength every day to continue on. Once I knew there was a purpose, I could then continue to trust the process. I could put my trust in Him and Him alone.

It hasn’t been all unicorns and rainbows and it has taken a lot of work to get to where we are today, but I can say that God has been faithful and He is a good God, a loving Father.

True healing comes from connection and community where what is difficult to face alone, we can gain strength and empowerment from journeying together with others who see us & hear us
Sandy Botembo
Founder, Gateway of Hope Coaching

Simple pricing options

Discovery Call

Sometimes the hardest part is taking that first step.

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Each call is completely confidential and free of judgment
Let’s get to know your background and make sure I’m the right fit for you.

Individual Session

One-time sessions typically used for a specific issue, emergencies

$100 /session
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Each session includes 60 minutes of 1:1 coaching
Discuss whatever is on your heart
Work through your immediate struggles.

Coaching Package

4 one-on-one 60 minute sessions.

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Each session has unlimited texts and emails with me for check-ins, support and accountability.
Between sessions, I will also give you additional work/ assignments to better assist your healing journey.
for those who are looking to explore a path towards healing and self-discovery